Agree to Agree Project

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Let’s Agree to Agree – A Community Commitment to Online Safety

We’re not anti-tech, we’re pro-smart tech. We love innovation, but we love our children more – safety must come first

Introduction to the Agree to Agree Project

Introduction video explaining the Agree to Agree project where we also share our Parents Survey Results

Our community are fully behind us. Please watch and listen to some words of wisdom from some familiar faces!

A Special Message of Support from Helen McEntee – Minister for Education and Youth

Internet and Technology Use Agreement

Information Leaflet

Click here to view and download our Internet and Technology Use Agreement Agreement

Agreement Final Version

Meet Captain Clonlara

Our very own Internet Safety Mascot designed and named by our students!

Resources Hub

Stay Safe, Stay Smart – Resources for Families
In alignment with our Internet and Technology Agreement, we are committed to supporting parents and guardians in guiding their children to engage with the online environment in a safe and responsible manner.

Parents Hub

Parental Controls/Privacy Settings

Parental Controls can be used to manage screen time, block inappropriate content, prevent accidental spending, and keep strangers away. Privacy settings control what personal information is shared.

Staying Safe Online

How to stay safe online and while browsing? Learn how to guide your child through safe digital habits.

Bullying

Support your child in dealing with online bullying and learn how to respond effectively.

Antibullying Centre – Parents Hub

Tackle Bullying – Cyber Bullying

Webwise – Cyberbullying advice

Reporting Issues

Report illegal or harmful content anonymously and securely.

Hotline.ie

Take It Down

Social Media Safety information for Parents

Snapchat

Snap Map shares your child’s live location by default with all their Snapchat friends – unless they manually switch to “Ghost Mode.” If your child adds someone they don’t know, that person can see exactly where they are.
Disappearing messages and stories make it harder to monitor conversations or content.
Snapchat streaks and filters can create pressure to stay constantly engaged.

TikTok

The “For You” page shows content from strangers, not just friends – which can include inappropriate or extreme videos.
Comments and duets allow strangers to interact with your child’s videos unless privacy settings are changed.
TikTok collects user data, including location, device info, and viewing habits – even for underage users.

Instagram

Accounts are public by default unless manually set to private. Anyone can view posts, stories, and reels unless privacy settings are adjusted.
Location tagging in posts and stories can reveal where your child lives, goes to school, or hangs out.
Instagram is linked to body image issues and social pressure, especially among pre-teens and teens.

YouTube & YouTube Shorts

Autoplay and recommendations can lead children to inappropriate or misleading content.
Comments on videos can be unfiltered unless disabled – exposing kids to harmful or offensive language.
YouTube Shorts are fast-paced and often unmoderated, making it easy for kids to binge-watch risky content.

Discord

Public servers allow strangers to chat with your child, often with little moderation.
Direct messages from non-friends are allowed by default, unless privacy settings are changed.
Voice and video chat features can expose kids to inappropriate conversations or bullying.

Quick Safety Tips

Turn off location sharing in all apps.
Set accounts to private and approve followers manually.
Use parental controls and safety hubs (e.g., TikTok Family Pairing, Instagram Supervision).
Talk regularly with your child about what they see and do online.

Smart Questions Parents Can Ask About Tech Use

Everyday Check-Ins

“What apps or games are you using most right now?”
“Did you see anything online today that made you feel weird or unsure?”
“Who do you chat with when you’re online — anyone new?”
“Have you ever seen something online you didn’t understand?”
“If someone said something mean online, what would you do?”

Privacy & Safety Prompts

“Do you know what personal info you should never share online?”
“Is your location turned off in your apps?”
“Do you know how to block or report someone if you need to?”
“Can you show me how your profile looks to other people?”
“Would you be okay showing that post to your granny?”

Digital Habits & Boundaries

“How much time do you think you spent on screens today?”
“Do you ever feel like you need a break from your phone or tablet?”
“What’s your favorite thing to do offline?”
“Do you know when it’s time to log off and chill?”

Critical Thinking & Awareness

“How do you know if something online is true or fake?”
“What would you do if someone asked you to keep a secret online?”
“Have you ever seen a video or message that felt like a trick?”
“Do you know what to do if someone asks for money or gifts online?”

The “Would You Show Your Granny?” Game

Goal:

Help children decide what’s safe, kind, and appropriate to share online – using a simple, relatable rule: If you wouldn’t show it to your granny, don’t post it!

How to Play:

Set the Scene Introduce the idea: “Granny is wise, kind, and always wants you to be safe. If you wouldn’t show her something, maybe it’s not okay to share online.”
Show Examples Read out or display different online scenarios. Kids decide: Yes, Granny would approve No, Granny would not
Use Visual Cards or Slides Examples:
- A silly selfie with friends
- A video showing your house address
- A kind comment on someone’s post
- A screenshot of a private chat
- A dance video with no personal info
- A post saying “I hate school”
Discussion Time Ask: “Why wouldn’t Granny like that?” Encourage kids to explain their thinking and learn from each other.
Create Your Own Let kids draw or write their own examples of things Granny would or wouldn’t approve of.

Smart Ways Parents Can Stay in Touch with Online Trends

1. Ask Open-Ended Questions Often

“What’s the funniest video you’ve seen lately?”
“Are there any new games or apps your friends are using?”
“What’s trending on TikTok or YouTube this week?”
These questions show interest without judgment and open the door for honest conversations.

2. Explore Platforms Together

Sit down and scroll through TikTok, YouTube Shorts, or Instagram Reels with your child.
Let them explain what they like and why — this builds trust and helps you understand their digital world.
Use “co-viewing” moments to gently point out red flags or ask questions like, “Do you think that’s real?” or “Would you post something like that?”

3. Create a Family Trend Tracker

Once a week, ask your child to share a new trend, meme, or app they’ve noticed.
Use it as a springboard for discussion – not surveillance.

4. Set Up Alerts & Controls

Use parental control tools like Google Family Link, TikTok Family Pairing, or Instagram Supervision to monitor usage and set boundaries.
These tools allow you to stay informed without invading privacy.

5. Teach Critical Thinking

Help kids ask: “Who made this?” “Why is it popular?” “Is it safe or respectful?”
Encourage them to think about what’s real vs. exaggerated – especially with influencers or viral challenges.

6. Keep the Conversation Going

Don’t wait for a problem to talk about tech.
Make digital life part of everyday chats – just like school, sports, or friends.

Slang Decoder: Are You Keeping Up? (2025 Edition)

Slang Decoder Table (2025 Edition)
Slang	What It Means	Explanation
Rizz	Charm	Smooth or charismatic, often playfully.
Brain rot	Watching silly content	Too much time on mindless videos or memes.
I cooked	I did really well	Nailed something — like a test or joke.
Touch grass	Go outside / chill out	Take a break from screens or drama.
Mid	Average or boring	Just okay — not great.
IYKYK	If you know, you know	Inside joke or shared experience.
Lowkey	Secretly / quietly	Quiet feelings or preferences.
Sus	Suspicious	Acting oddly or hiding something.
Slay	Do something really well	Look great or succeed at something.
No cap	No lie	Being totally honest.
Boujee	Fancy or high-maintenance	Stylish or posh.
NPC	Robotic or weird behavior	Like a background character in a game.
Ratio	More replies than likes	Often negative — used on social media.
Bet	Okay / deal	Agreement or confirmation.
L	Loss or fail	Something went badly.
W	Win or success	Something went well.
Drip	Cool outfit or style	Fashionable look.
Flex	Show off	Bragging or flaunting.
Ghost	Ignore someone	Stop replying or disappear.
Vibe	Mood or atmosphere	General feeling or energy.
Stan	Superfan	Really enthusiastic supporter.
Salty	Bitter or annoyed	Upset or jealous.
Extra	Over-the-top	Dramatic or attention-seeking.
GOAT	Greatest of all time	The best at something.
Yeet	Throw or express excitement	Used playfully or dramatically.
Bop	Catchy song	A tune that’s fun to dance to.
Shook	Surprised	Shocked or amazed.
Fire	Amazing	Really good or exciting.
Chill	Relax	Take it easy.
Zesty	Dramatic or flamboyant	Over-the-top in a fun way.
Skibidi	Silly or chaotic	Meme-inspired nonsense.
Gyatt	Big reaction to appearance	Often exaggerated or playful.
Core memory	Unforgettable moment	Something that sticks forever.
Glitch	Mistake or awkward moment	Something went wrong.
Slaps	Really good (music)	A great song or beat.
Rizzy biz	Playful nonsense talk	Silly or chaotic chatter.
Delulu	Delusional in a funny way	Believing something silly or unrealistic.
Main character	Acting like the star	Someone who thinks they’re the centre of attention.
POV	Point of view	Perspective or angle.
TMI	Too much information	Oversharing.
Cringe	Awkward or embarrassing	Something that makes you wince.
Vloggy	Acting like a YouTuber	Over-explaining or narrating everything.
Cap	Lie	Not true.
BFFR	Be for real	Stop joking or exaggerating.
Pookie	Affectionate nickname	Cute or silly name for someone.
Baddie	Confident and stylish person	Someone who looks and acts cool.
Snatched	Looks amazing	Perfect appearance or outfit.
Slumped	Very tired	Exhausted or asleep.
Hype	Excited	Lots of energy or anticipation.
Glow up	Transformation for the better	Big improvement in looks or confidence.

Kids Corner

Do you know this is Cyberbullying? - Kids Edition!

Examples of Cyberbullying you might not even realise is harmful to others

Mean or Excluding Comments

“You’re not invited to our group chat.”
“Nobody likes your posts.”
“You’re too weird to play this game.”

These may seem like jokes or teasing, but they can hurt someone’s feelings and make them feel left out.

Sharing Without Permission

Posting a photo of someone making a silly face without asking.
Sharing screenshots of private messages to embarrass someone.
Tagging someone in a video they didn’t want online.

Even if it’s funny to you, it might be embarrassing or upsetting to them.

Silent Treatment or Ghosting

Ignoring someone on purpose in a group chat.
Leaving someone out of online games or calls.
Pretending not to see their messages.

Excluding someone online can feel just as hurtful as being left out in real life.

Spreading Rumors or Secrets

“I heard she likes that boy – everyone’s talking about it.”
“He cried during class – pass it on.”
Sharing gossip in group chats or comments.

Spreading things that aren’t true or private is a form of bullying.

Manipulation or Pressure

“If you don’t send a selfie, you’re not really our friend.”
“Say something mean to them or we won’t talk to you.”
“Let’s all block her for fun.”

Pressuring someone to do something online they’re not comfortable with is bullying.

What Kids Can Do

Ask: “Would I say this to their face?”
Think: “Would I want someone to do this to me?”
Act: Tell a trusted adult, block/report, and be kind online.

Some ideas for you to respond to peer pressure about tech

IF asked: “Why don’t you play Roblox?”

“I’ve heard of it, but I’m not allowed to play it at home.”
“It’s not something I’m into right now.”
“My parents and I talked about it, and we decided it’s not the best choice for me.”
“I do other things for fun, like drawing or sports.”

IF asked: “You don’t have a phone yet?”

“Not yet – my family wants me to wait until I’m older.”
“I use a tablet sometimes, but I don’t have my own phone.”
“We’re trying to spend less time on screens at home.”
“I’ll probably get one when I really need it.”

IF asked: “Why aren’t you on TikTok/Snapchat?”

“My parents don’t think it’s safe for kids my age.”
“I’m not ready for social media yet.”
“I like watching videos sometimes, but I don’t have an account.”
“We have rules at home about apps like that.”

IF asked: “Why don’t you play Fortnite/Minecraft?”

“I’ve seen it, but I’m not allowed to play it.”
“I like other games better – or I just do different stuff.”
“My parents want me to wait until I’m older.”
“I don’t want to start playing it, sounds like people get too obsessed with it!”

Empowering Replies for Any Situation

“Everyone’s family is different, and this is what works for mine.”
“I’m okay with not having it – I still have fun.”
“I don’t feel left out. I do other things I enjoy.”
“It’s not a big deal to me, but I get why you like it.”
“BECAUSE I SIGNED UP TO MY SCHOOLS INTERNET AND TECHNOLOGY AGREEMENT AND I WANT TO STICK TO IT!”

If you experience Cyberbullying - try these replies!

If you experience Cyberbullying – try these replies!

Calm and Confident Responses

“That’s not okay to say. I’m logging off/ending this chat right now.”
“I don’t deserve to be treated like that. I’m logging off/ending this chat right now.”
“I’m not going to argue. I’m logging off/ending this chat right now.”
“I’m logging off now – I want to discuss what happened with my family.”

Smart and Self-Protective Replies

“I’m saving this message and telling an adult – I’m logging off/ending this chat right now.”
“I don’t talk to people who are mean online – I’m logging off/ending this chat right now.”
“This isn’t funny. It’s hurtful – I’m logging off/ending this chat right now.”
“I’m reporting this. Everyone deserves to feel safe online – I’m logging off/ending this chat right now.”

When They Want to Stay Cool but Firm

“I’m not here for drama. I’m here to have fun.”
“You can say what you want, but I know who I am.”
“I’m not going to let your words ruin my day.”
“I’d rather be kind than cruel.

Encouraging Kids to Get Help

“I’m telling my teacher or parent about this.”
“I don’t have to deal with this alone.”
“I’m not afraid to speak up when something’s wrong.”
“Being safe online means asking for help when I need it.”

Remember it’s your Parents job to keep you safe! Never keep being upset a secret – everyone who loves you will always protect you

What to Do If You See Cyberbullying

1. Don’t Join In

Even if others are laughing or sharing mean comments, don’t add to it.
Staying silent is better than making it worse.

2. Speak Up (If You Feel Safe)

You can say something like:
- “That’s not kind.”
- “Let’s not be mean.”
- “This isn’t okay.”

3. Tell a Trusted Adult

Talk to a parent, teacher, or family member you trust.
Show them what happened — screenshots can help (If you feel safe sharing them)

4. Support the Person Being Bullied

Send a kind message privately like:
- “I saw what happened. I’m here for you.”
- “You didn’t deserve that.”
Let them know they’re not alone – you might change their life with one simple act of kindness.

5. Report It

Use the “report” or “block” button on the app or game – talk to your parents or teachers about this.
Most platforms have ways to report bullying behavior – talk to your parents or teachers about this.

6. Don’t Share or Forward Mean Messages

Even if it’s “just a joke,” sharing hurtful things makes it worse.
Delete it and don’t pass it on.

What You Can Say to an Adult

“Someone was being really mean online.”
“I saw a message that made me uncomfortable.”
“Can you help me figure out what to do?”
“Can you help without saying my name? I don’t want people to know I said anything but I want to help.

Once you post it, it’s out there – usually forever – so make sure it’s kind, true, and safe.

What Parents Say - What Kids THINK it means - what it ACTUALLY means!

Tech Talk Decoder: What Parents SAY– What Kids THINK it means – what it ACTUALLY means!

WPS

We want your help!

We want to continuously improve our resource section. If you have suggestions for additional resources to be available on this page please contact us at Office@ClonlaraNS.com

Community and Collaboration

Dr Maureen Griffin of MGMS Training Limited – Thank you Maureen for pouring your heart and soul into this project and bringing us along with you!
The Clare Education Centre for running the Agree to Agree project and inviting us to join. A special word of thanks to Martin Moloney for his assistance (and humour) throughout the project.
Davey Glennon of Laundry Hub Loughrea – Thank you for your kind sponsorship of this project.
Xperi – Thank you for your kind sponsorship of this project.

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